THE BEST THING TO HAPPEN TO TRADITIONAL MARRIAGE IS THE WORST THING TO HAPPEN TO DIVORCE LAWYERS:
FEMINISM
BY LISA RICHARDS
NOVEMBER 6, 2007
The idea of feminism being great for traditional marriage sounds ludicrous. But in actuality, it’s true.
No, I have not lost my marbles. I am a feminist, just not a radical feminist like Gloria Steinem and the genderless Hillary Clinton. I’m a feminist in the fashion of Abigail Adams, Harriet Tubman, Sojourner Truth, the Women of Suffrage, Amelia Earhart, and Condoleezza Rice (though she is still single and waiting): the kind of women who believe in marriage, family, loving one’s husband, believing he’s the head of the house, yet having equality with our husbands through fidelity and respect.
The women above were and are career women who did and do things that inspire women to be great and feminine, not men. So how does feminism actually help marriage and ruin divorce lawyers; I’ll tell you.
When the 1960’s radical women’s movement took hold, Gloria Steinem and her followers told women not to marry, not to be beholden to a man, not to let a man pay their way. And Steinem’s followers believed her by emulating her actions. They stayed single…until Ms. Steinem got married in her forties, showing that all women, at some point in time, realize they want a husband—whether they can have children or not. And thus “Ms.” Steinem’s followers hit that certain age and followed suit, marrying in their forties as well.
And low and behold the feministas believe in fidelity and staying married!
What a contradiction to their lies. They love their husband—except Hillary—and their home life as married women. Hillary lives alone. And because feminists married later in life, they already had their fill of burning bras and trying to prove they could be men living like frat boys with no responsibilities to anyone but themselves. Frat life only lasted 20 years until feminists got tired of their own propaganda and became traditional women, thus putting divorce lawyers back in the hole.
Does that still sound odd? Prior to the 1960’s, divorce was virtually unheard of. Men and women married for love and stayed married. Their daughters became radical feminists decrying marriage as slavery, telling all women to remain single. Then these women aged and got lonely and went looking for what their mothers have: Mr. Right.
The problem this has presented divorce lawyers is more women today have remained single until their forties. Women have decided to go to college and achieve careers and travel the world. By the time these women turn 40, they’ve seen it and done it all and they’re bored with single hood, which holds only so much. Yet they are wise enough by age not to pick a low-life for a husband. That’s not to say some women haven’t chosen unwisely, but age makes them see their folly and helps them escape quicker than a young woman would.
Single hood until a women reaches her forties is actually a saving grace for marriage: when one reaches the age of 40, one can not function past 10 pm. Acting like a 20 year old is exhausting. Not to mention the dating scene has become wracked with disease. And quite frankly it’s geared for the youth, not someone who now automatically awakes every morning at 5 am and hits the sack at 10 pm.
Another factor plays in reasoning: as single women age, single women really know what they want. Single women who are single at 40 don’t have fairy tale expectations; they know what life is like and how hard it can be. They also have reached a maturity that makes them ideal wives because they know who they are, they are self-assured, they like who they are, they can’t be controlled by a man they fell in ga ga with at 20 and had no idea what marriage would be—two separate personalities living under one roof and sharing the same bed. Older single women understand habits because they have years of habits—they sleep with their cats and dogs, something only men over 35 can understand. These women understand what age does to the human body because their bodies went south when they hit 30. In other words, women 40 and older want real men, not the boys they would have wanted at 20.
Basically what I’m saying is, feminism inadvertently saved marriage and could make the divorce rate go down. Why; they told women not to marry young. They told women not to marry, rather get educations and careers. Women listened and after years of achieving, women are fulfilled and realize they can continue their work and be married at an older age to men of their generation who like career women with brains.
Another way feminism helped marriage was it made women wait for Mr. Right. As I noted, these women dated all through their twenties, then had no time in their 30’s due to the careers they worked hard to achieve. During the wait, women realized they are worth more than a role in the sheets and decided waiting for the right guy is worth it. It leads to a lasting marriage.
Gloria Steinem and Hillary Clinton may have thought they destroyed the idea of marriage and created a genderless class of women—well maybe Hillary and Rosie O’Donnell—but they failed. More and more women are waiting to get married when they are 40 and older because they want the real, lasting thing. They don’t want to end up divorced like younger women have. When women are older, they see the world as it truly is and know what is better.
Today, one in four marriages ends in divorce. But at the rate many women are choosing to wait—and that includes younger women who see that sleeping around and marrying and divorcing and marrying again only leads to heartache and disease—divorce lawyers might see a return to pre-1960’s traditional marriage. And they can thank feminism for telling women to stay single, get educations and have careers. Nothing makes women find their true self better than that. And nothing makes a woman a better person than learning who she is before she finds the right man and marries.
Divorce lawyers love young marriages: most never last. Divorce lawyers hate later-in-life marriages: those are the marriages that last. Divorce lawyers love rebound marriages and love at first infatuation marriages: they end in divorce. Divorce lawyers hate women who decide to stay single till their forties: their marriages work, because they know what they want and they know their husband, as well as them self, is not play dough to mold into an imagined image of childhood fantasies. Divorce lawyers love young and dumb: they hate older and wiser. They can thank feminism for that.
One of the most obnoxious movements of the 20th century is the best thing that ever happened to marriage since God’s invention of it. Feminism inadvertently taught women they need to understand themselves before they can understand a man. It taught women to wait on God and be choosy. It taught women they have a lot to offer, so don’t throw it away on a jerk, especially when you have brains you worked hard to earn over the last 20 years.
So when you single, older women find Mr. Right, write Gloria and Hillary a letter thanking them for telling you to get educations and careers first. Tell them it made you wait for nothing but the best. Then watch the divorce lawyers re-mortgage their houses.
copyright 2007 Lisa Richards
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